The things I have learnt in my life. So far….

When I was a teenager & then again in my early twenties, I thought I knew everything about everything. Turns out I didn’t. Fast forward ahem, a few years, I’m reflecting on all the things I’ve done & the lessons learnt. And what’s more I know that the learning never stops. So without further ado, here are some things I’ve learnt over the past few years:

I’ve learnt that babies are not stupid just because they can’t talk. They tell you in their own way what they need.

I’ve learnt that my toddler has bipolar disorder & OCD (please know I am not downplaying the seriousness of these mental illnesses, but they are appropriate when explaining my toddlers behaviour).

I’ve learnt the true meaning of unconditional love.

I’ve learnt that when in a hurry a nappy will need to be changed, because babies don’t care for being on time & schedules.

I’ve learnt that you never stop growing up.

I’ve learnt that raising my voice at Orli does not help. At all. I’ve learnt this pisses me off.

I’ve learnt that even as a parent myself, what my parents think still impact some of my decisions.

I’ve learnt that chocolate doesn’t help, but that is also helps.

I’ve learnt that there is no shame in having a Pospartum (postnatal) mood disorder. I didn’t ask for it nor choose to have it.

I’ve learnt that if it’s not on Google it doesn’t exist.

I’ve learnt that you need to work on your marriage. Complacency is the number one reason that most couples split up.

I’ve learnt that patience doesn’t come easily to me.

I’ve learnt that having a nap is the new happy hour.

I’ve learnt that mutual respect is important in every relationship. If it’s not there, you may as well not be there either.

I’ve learnt that the words ‘I love you mummy’ makes my heart explode. Each & every time.

I’ve learnt that Cancer, mental illnesses etc do not discriminate.

I’ve learnt to use the word ‘regret’ instead of ‘guilty’ when talking about my PMD.

I’ve learnt that mess & clutter make me anxious.

I’ve learnt that writing for me is healing & cathartic. Thanks for allowing me to share my words with you all too.

I’ve learnt that forgiveness is bloody hard, but important for your soul & overall happiness.

I’ve learnt not to judge other parents. I don’t live with them, I don’t know the reasons for doing the things they do & it comes down to mutual respect.

I’ve learnt that the TV keeps my kids entertained & I’m more than ok with it.

I’ve learnt that you don’t need to have met people in real life to have long lasting & meaningful relationships.

I’ve learnt that it takes longer for others to learn.

I’ve learnt that my babies have never cared for the baby books saying what they ‘should’ be doing. They can’t read. They do what they want, when they want.

I’ve learnt when to take the higher moral ground.

I’ve learnt that cooking isn’t hard, it just requires time & motivation. I’m lacking in both.

I’ve learnt that self-care is imperative to your overall happiness & crucial to in order to be available to your kids. I need to learn how to do it.

I’ve learnt I learn something new every day.

I’ve learnt that you need to speak up when it comes to your kids health & happiness.

I’ve learnt how to go to the toilet without having kids in there with me. It’s not always successful.

I’ve learnt to enjoy the moment.

I’ve learnt that all families have their shit.

I’ve learnt that you need to be organised when you have kids.

I’ve learnt that NOTHING can prepare you for being a first time mum.

I’ve learnt that masks cover pain, it doesn’t get rid of it.

I’ve learnt that toddlers can frustrate the hell out of you.

I’ve learnt that friends are to be cherished.

I’ve learnt that no one can clean our home as well as me.

I’ve learnt to give myself permission for having a bad day & not to feel guilty about it.

I’ve learnt never to take kindness for granted.

I’ve learnt that it takes a long time to heal.

I’ve learnt that I’ll never stop learning.

 

What have you learnt?


Comments

  1. Paige says:

    I’ve learned:
    Baby 1 and baby 2 are not the same.
    It’s okay to put baby down and walk away even if she’s still crying.
    Sometimes going grocery shopping by yourself is a vacation and that’s ok.
    No one has all the answers even if it looks like they do.

  2. Susan says:

    I love that idea of regret vs guilt. It’s really resonated with me since our chat last week.

    • Yuz says:

      I know. I saw it on a blog somewhere last week – I wish I could remember! Anyway, once you get started saying ‘regret’, it becomes easier & you use the word ‘guilty’ less often. It’s also easier to forgive yourself. I almost pinch myself when I realise we had our first date!

  3. Ivy says:

    Love this blog post! So much of what you’ve learnt resonates with me! Life is all about learning opportunities, and you learn to make the most of them. Glad, btw, that I’ve got company when it comes to cooking! Okay, the truth is out now!

  4. Lisa says:

    Loved it Yuz. I think we must be twins. I have no motivation to cook either 🙂
    I’ve learnt that I hate school holidays!!

    • Icha says:

      10th percentile. Four monhts ago she was only about 4.5kg and so far below the 3rd percentile that I was stressing myself into a state of depression. Thank goodness times have changed and all for the better. Her length is a little below the 10th

  5. Jaime says:

    This is beautiful. The line about naps being the new happy hour made me laugh. Great post, my friend!

  6. Kimberly says:

    Yes motherhood is a new learning experience every single day 😉
    PS. Perhaps you could have used the “Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde” as a reference to toddlers moods rather than bipolar? I know that you didn’t intend to downplay the illness…and yes our moods do fluctuate but not the same as a toddlers. I just thought that you could have used a better reference.
    Don’t hate me for saying that…I’m just trying really hard to do my part at destigmatizing bipolar disorder. Still love you.

  7. Jacqui says:

    So true, I started to giggle at the fact that a nappy always needs changing when you’re in a hurry, and continued to smile and laugh through the rest. Though I sometimes think my 19 month old has read the baby books I have and has decided to do the opposite just to keep me on my toes.

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